Perfecting the Perfect Handshake
the perfect handshake first by seeking feedback on yours. Ask someone you trust
to help identify areas of opportunity. Then, practice it on others to solicit
feedback and more guidance until you've mastered the art.
Some keys to
the perfect handshake include:
- Anticipate the handshake. Ensure your
hand is free, out of your pocket and not holding onto any items. Switching hands
to shake is distracting and awkward.
- Use your right hand. Even if you're
a leftie, our culture dictates right-handed handshakes as key.
a strong, confident posture. Remain upright and refrain from leaning. If necessary,
take a step toward the person with whom you're greeting. If you're seated upon
meeting someone, stand up before shaking their hand. This signifies respect to
the person you're meeting.
- Make intentional eye contact as you greet the
other person. Once your hand makes a connection, ensure your eyes connect too.
Use a kind greeting such as "nice to meet you" or "great to see you again." Incorporate
their name with your greeting to help better solidify your introduction. This
interaction trifecta will warm up anyone with whom you connect.
firm throughout the handshake. Grasp the other person's hand with a firm grip
without squeezing. Maintain the grip for two seconds before releasing. Don't allow
your hand to fall limp upon the initial grip.
- Shake from your elbow, not
your wrist. Two or three pumps will do. Any more and your partner will begin to
You want to be so confident in your handshake
style that it is second nature. Seeking feedback and frequent practice will help
solidify your good habits, so you can concentrate more on meeting the person and
less on the impression you're making. The more comfortable you become, the more
confidence you'll convey.